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Posted: 17 April 2008 at 4:20pm | IP Logged

After lots and lots of dithering I have completely, totally made up my mind that I don't want anymore kids, can't handle anymore and the thought of labour and a newborn gives me cold blood, lol.

I am however a bit worried. I am so sure this is what I want but I think to myself, would it set me off on a downward spiral knowing that I will never have anymore even though I don't want anymore ? I just keep thinking that the "what if" will keep coming up in my head. Also, what happens to your periods when you get sterilised ?

Posted: 17 April 2008 at 4:29pm | IP Logged

Well I'm not sterilised but WE are cos dh has had the snip. It was a joint decision, he offered as the procedure is less risky for men than women.

I am still 100%sure it was the right thing for both me and him, and we were strongly advised against it as our youngest was only 9months at the time.

I still love babies, but only other peoples, I like handing them back and quite frankly I couldn't cope with more than we have.

If you're sure, I'd say do it, it means a level of safety during the bedroom gymnastics that can't be rivalled (TMI sorry).

AFAIK you still have normal periods after being sterilised, your ovaries still produce egss and the hormones etc so you should just have normal periods.

Hope that helps

K

Posted: 17 April 2008 at 5:13pm | IP Logged

Hazy, I would really think long and hard.

I was posting on here 18 months ago adiment sterilisation was all I wanted. I was extremely sure I didn't want any more. Even now, some days I think to myself I dont really want any more. But I have in the last 3 months thought how much I would like another baby. I dont know if this feeling will last. It may just be coincidence over my PCOS getting uncontrol and me feeling more like a woman. Or maybe because they tell me I might never have more, and its a case of wanting what I cant have lol but one thing I do know is I will never say never. You never know what is just round the corner, or how you will feel in a years time. Make sure you think about it, and know in your heart it is the right thing for you before you make any big decisions. There are other methods of contraception you could consider.

Posted: 17 April 2008 at 5:17pm | IP Logged

Thanks Chris but I was going to do it last year but decided to wait a year and see how I felt then. After the m/c late last year, it made me think really hard about having a newborn again and I honestly couldn't handle another kiddie in the house.

Also, I want to seperate the youngest two when the oldest one leaves home and I would hate to take away their own lil bit f space by making them share again.

Katiki, I never knew that about periods so thanks very much, xx.

Posted: 17 April 2008 at 5:32pm | IP Logged

If you are 110% sure that you dont want any more children, then i wouldn't think about the what if's, and concentrate on the positive factors it will bring to you and your relationship.
The security of not having to worry about the risk of getting pregnant and fussing over which contraception to use and their side effects to worry about too.
Even now, im still so scared of getting pregnant again, that i never actually relax and enjoy myself, as its always in the back of my mind.. so just concentrate on that freedom it will give you and enjoy yourselves.

Have you discussed your dh having the op instead of you.. or is it something that you deffinately want to have done for yourself?
x-x-x
  

Posted: 17 April 2008 at 6:14pm | IP Logged

I can't type what he said when I asked him if he would go instead !!

I'm quite happy to have it done and you're so right. Stop thinking about what if and start looking forward to nookie without having to faff about with condoms !

Posted: 30 April 2008 at 10:47pm | IP Logged

I am writing this to the lady who is geting her tubes tide we dont know how long our kids are going to be here or evan make it into an adult i had my tubes tied in 2000 and my period went crazy bleeding like a pig gain weight  i had an tubal reversal in 2007 now i have a new little girl i know one child can not replace the other but it sure feel good to be able to have another if you want too.

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