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Posted: 01 October 2007 at 9:23pm | IP Logged

What's the best way to treat depression, i had it a while ago adn it got treated by meds and councilling which wasn't very conviniant (sp?) as had to get ds looked after.

Well i'm there again and i don't know where to turn, i'm fed up of taking it out on dp and ds's but don't know what to do...

All ready taking lots of pills for spd and getting time to talk away from kids is vertually (sp?) impossible! I use up all my favours with friends for numerous hospital appointments.

They don't know how low i really am but i know a couple of you on here have an incling.

I want to get sorted i just don't know which way to go now but i don't want to feel like this i want to be happy and i want to enjoy being alive with my sons and my dp.

Any suggestions greatfully recieved.....

If you want to leave a personal message please pm me and i'll get back to you asap.

Thanks for listening to me ramble on about jack.

Tsena

Posted: 01 October 2007 at 9:39pm | IP Logged

Tsena, I'm so sorry to hear that you're feeling so low. I think you know what we're all going to tell you? You need to go to see your GP. If you really can't fit in any coucelling at the mo, maybe at least getting back onto medication for it might help you start to feel a bit better. I know you're already taking lots of meds, but there must be something that they can give you alongside that isn't there? The pain you're going through isn't going to help either. What kind of hospital appointments do you have? Are you seeing a pain specialist to try and get you through this? (sorry if you've already posted about that, I'm not sure). I can only imagine a little what you must be going through, as I had mild spd with my 2nd pg, and badly with my 3rd, but I was lucky in that it mostly cleared up after Joe was born. That constant pain would bring anyone down, so don't feel bad for feeling bad, if you know what I mean.

I'm certain that your friends won't see it as that you've used up favours, and would help you out with the boys if you needed it. One of my friends had councelling at a centre that had a creche - would it be worth asking your GP if there's anything near you that offers that facility?

Do you think that the time of year isn't helping either? SAD is a very common form of depression that kicks in around now, so maybe a light box could help. I know my sister (dizie) wouldn't be without hers. They are quite expensive to buy, but there are places that offer a home trial so that you can see if it helps before you have to fork out. The company is called Lumie: http://www.lumie.com/

I really wish I could offer something more constructive. Please go and see your GP. In the meantime, very gentle hugs from me.

Love Rachel x

Posted: 02 October 2007 at 10:56am | IP Logged

hi, it is such a lonely place depression. I have suffered for nearly 10 years now, and hit rock bottom when I had my little one.

I agree with everyone else you need to go back to your gp, write it all down so that if you so to pieces you wont forget anythng, and be honest with them.

They should ask you to fill in a questionaire about how you are feeling, and again be honest.

I really hope you start to feel better soon, and i am sure your friends will always be there to help you through this.

sending you a great big hug, my heart goes out to you x x x

Posted: 02 October 2007 at 11:43am | IP Logged

Thanks for this guys but getting to gp is a nightmare she only works 2 days a week.... as for anti depressants i don't want them.... i hated them last time and i honestly don't want to be consuming any more meds.

I'm currently on.... paracetamol, lanzoprasol (sp?), naporoxen, di-hydracoedine, and oralmorph.

I'm waiting to see a pain specialist but my problem is i never manage to be honest about my mood, very good at acting it and hinding it if you know what i mean.

I am fed up of doing what i'm told in relation to physio, and doc, fed up of living in a *e hole and nothing getting better but the opposite, nothing i do works i rebel and do bits i'm not meant to and suffer for it then i rest for weeks like a good girl and i'm just as worse off. My kids and my dp deserve someone who can cook for them, take them out on bike rides, do mummy things not sat down on her bum all day and doing the bear minimum!

Sorry guys its how i feel and i can't talk to strange people for knowing that they are judging me and last time i tried and said how i feel i nearly ended up loosing my ds! So i don't have much faith in the traditional paths.

Hence my question what on earth am i to do apart from trying to suck it up i suppose and just keep plodding along.

Sorry if i've upset you just needed to get it out of my system a bit, not that it helps much.

Posted: 02 October 2007 at 7:21pm | IP Logged

Not much left to say but I do think a review of your meds is in order. If you don't feel they are helping go with you instincts. I have had pnd/depression and have been on amytriptilene which made me v tired but did help me sleep so I liked that one, but then I have been on a modern form of Prozac which I hated and it didn't agree with me at all.

With regards to counselling, ask your GP if there is one that can provide childcare. It may mean group counselling but I went to a group session for nearly 3 years and I really liked it. Learnt a lot about myself and got a break from teh kids.