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Posted: 04 September 2006 at 12:33pm | IP Logged

I told dh las week that I was feeling really low and feed-up but it fell on deaf ears, I told him that if it was to continue I wanted to go to the doctors.

He told me I wasn't depressed because people who were didn't know that they were depressed ?????

He told me that if I had to go on anti D's it would change me and he didn't want that. He asked me to wait until we were in the new house because it might just be stress related.

What willl I do ?

Posted: 04 September 2006 at 1:10pm | IP Logged

Martha I have depression and I know the signs so I can get help when I see them coming - it does NOT mean I am not depressed and it is fantastic that you have noticed these signs and want to do something about it.

Anti d's dont change you in any way other than to make you less depressed! Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and all anti d's do is correct that so they help you to be the person you were before depression, not a different person.

It is possible that the move is realted to your depression but if you are feeling low now then dont wait to ask for help.You can always come off the anti d's at a later date when you feel better. I also think that this is something you have been struggling with on and off for a long time. From previous posts I would even suggest it may be unresolved PND. I hope you dont mind me saying that and dont think I am speaking out of turn, it is just a feeling I have.

Speak to your dh again and explain exactly how you feel. At the end of the day it is your decision, not him, if you get help but it does help if your dh supports you through it.

We'll be here for you babe, take care.

Posted: 04 September 2006 at 1:17pm | IP Logged

Not at all Madz, I want people to be honest... I have no one else to talk to...no one else to understand.

I want people to tell me if I need a kick up the bum or is it more serious.

Thanks so much for the advice and being open with me.

Posted: 04 September 2006 at 1:17pm | IP Logged

I am sorry if I am talking out of turn here but I think your husband is being a bit selfish about this. 

If you feel you would benefit going to the doctors hun then you go - if it is depression and you let it carry on you'll end up feeling 100 times worse

I have no knowledge of the illness or the medication but from what has already been said it sounds as though the medication (if you get it) wont change you.  Who is to say if it is depression the illness wont change you anyway (for the worst)

Maybe your dh is just a bit scared of the word depression and doesn't want to think of his wife suffering from it - sit down with him again and let him know your feelings and offer for him to go along to the gp with you - that way he'll maybe feel a bit better about it all

Let us know what you decide to do

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