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Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:18pm | IP Logged

So it has now been 4 wks postpartum. I ve been stressed and all that is normal yes. I havent gotten depressed and was managing the baby blues for the last weeks now. Finally my baby girl has stopped crying. When will she get up next? I have finally gotten to the end of my rope...told dh to take a hike since hes not been there physically for the baby and I. I cant even complain to him how tired i am now..and he left for work as always. I am still here with the baby as if we know no other life beings on the face of this earth. Everytime someone comes to take care of her to give me a break..critisms come rushing in...I am a bad mom! I dont know what the heck im doing..and worse off..she doesnt cry with others as she does with me.>>>>>>>>get to the point...  I should give her away to hands that knows best. I give up. I dont have anything to live for really. Im gonna wander off  and wish i dont have to look back now. Poor baby, i really love her so much and i shouldnt even feel this way but like i said, im a terrable mother. cant do anything right.

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:22pm | IP Logged

nononono

poor you

big hugs

thats completely normal

she can just sense you are stressed, your dp may just be uncertain as though hes treading on eggshells

it may be wise to take a trip to the docs asap

xxjo

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:29pm | IP Logged

Lina, please listen to what everyone is saying.

You are NOT a bad mother.

You are suffering from an illness that is NOT YOUR FAULT.

You MUST get some help, for your sake and Kaitlyns.

Please, please, get to your doctors as soon as you can. You have your daughter to live for. She needs you for a very long time. She'll cry more for you because she picks up on your upset and even at this young age she empathises with you. It's not because she prefers others. Also, she can smell your milk the whole time, and may well fuss for that. My eldest was just the same.

You're not alone Lina, I just wish you were in this country then we could all come over and hug you and take you to the doctors ourselves.

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:34pm | IP Logged

   You are definately not a bad mother and you should not call yourself one. You have just gone through one of the biggest changes in your life. Things aren't going to be the same again, also dh needs to realise this. Please go to the doctors or your equivalent to a health visitor. They will listen and help you.

    Please take care. Sending you hugs and kisses xxxx

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:35pm | IP Logged

lina i think you need to speak to someone near you now, perhaps they can come over and sit with you?

3smalls right we would all be at your front door now if we could be

please talk to someone 'real' soon

more huggettes jo xx

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:40pm | IP Logged

aww lina no you are not a bad mother you are just normal,

i think it would be best if you had a chat with your hv or doctor,

if ever you need a chat im always here.

luv bev

Posted: 24 February 2007 at 8:54pm | IP Logged

so what will happen? will they just put me on anti ds? what do u recommend. im also bfeeding and gosh being on birth control..wont it make me shaky??  Help!! thanks Lynie for talking to me..eyes dried up a bit now.