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Posted: 25 January 2008 at 3:36pm | IP Logged

Hey All,

With there only being 4 weeks now until Millie-Bump is due, DH and I have been talking about future plans (including the no-more babies plan lol) and he's come to the decision he wants to get the snip. The thing is we've both heard a few stories and I was wondering if anyone else's other half has had it done and what their experiences was. Is it really sore afterwards? How long does the op take? Also; DH is only 28 which we've read online is younger than recommended. The thing is once Millie-Bump arrives we'll have three girls between us (Jess and Mllie living with us and then Beckie who actually lives in Glasgow with her Mum, but is still of course DH's daughter and therefore part of his responsibility both financially and emotionally) so we definitely won't want any more. Do you think his age will cause a problem with the Doctor agreeing to arrange it, or will our circumstances over-ride the fact he's only 28?

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 4:24pm | IP Logged

Simon has had the snip.. he was 30 when he had it.. the doc originally said he would have to wait untill he was older, but after explaining the 2 kids in less the 2 years, im allergic to latex, cant go on the pill due to dvt, the injection made me bleed constantly from the age of 16 till 20... and we didnt want any more kids.. he was fine with putting the referal through for him..

the local money ppl for the NHS denied him, so he went back to see the doc who put in a appeal and he won..

If he does get denied, keep appealing.. and if the doc say's no because of his age, keep hassling him until he agrees..

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 4:25pm | IP Logged

Could be a case of convince the doctor, cos hes the one that will make the decison...your gp will refer you up...and the surgeon will make the decision one way or another.

I had to fight to push for my sterilisation as they wouldnt touch me til i was 35..yet on my diagnosis there was no argument in the end...but then i had to have a hysterectomy instead lol.

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 4:38pm | IP Logged

I would definately give it serious thought and then some more.

I went to see about getting serilised 2 years ago, then when my app came through, I couldn't go through with it.

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 4:49pm | IP Logged

My ex was 34 when he had the snip. We had 3 children under 3 and took them all to the consultants. When he asked if we were sure we just pointed at the three of them pounding holes outa each other over a toy!! He just laughed and siad "sign here"!!!

He also had his tonsils out and reckoned that was more painful than the snip was. He will have bruising and some swelling but its not unbearable apparently and it soon goes down if you listen to docs advice. ex wanted to keep the swelling but loose the pain!!! lol !!!

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 5:19pm | IP Logged

Awww hun bless it's not an easy decision if you and dh are certain that this is what you'd like and both agree i'd go to your gp and keep going you have a right to be refered......

Me and dp are talking about sterilisation as i've been told not to have any more kids..... i want to have it done but he doesn't want it he'd rather have the snip as it's a major op for me and a minor one for him..... so we're still at the discussion stage but i don't think anything will happen for a year or 2 as i need to make sure that my condition isn't going to improve etc

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 5:35pm | IP Logged

Thanks for the advice gang I didn't actually mention one or two other contributing factors that might help our case. The first is that DH is allergic to latex, so we definitely can't use any form on condom. The second is I have major problems with contreception. My BMI is too high for the pill, and the depo-jab caused me to have an allergic reaction that is believed to have caused my urticaria/angioderma and has resulted in my being on 3 different types of anti-histimines daily for the last two years. Due to the similarities between the jab, the implant and all the coils that feature hormones (which from what I know is most of them now) the Doctor's always have major worries about how I'll react to any hormone based contreceptive (though of course that hasn't been an issue for the last 8 months LOL)

With regard to the 'are we sure' side of things, I feel we're as sure as we're ever going to be. I'm a big believer in only having kids if your 110% sure you can provide without doubt for their every need and we honestly don't think that we could/would want to provide anymore. Financially, we can support the two that will be here and partially support Beckie (as obviously her Mum also supports her) comfortably, but we wouldn't want to put ourselves in a position where we were really struggling. Emotionally/physically we feel that having enough quality time to share with the kids both all together and individually is really important and if we were to go on and have anymore that of course, would also be strecthed further (particularly as Beckie lives so far away so access and quality time with Beckie requires lots of planning and travelling) As well as our family situation, I'm currently at Uni, DH is in a job he hates and we're currently in a 2 bedroomed rented house. We have lots of other future plans that we want to aim to achieve including me completing my degree and forwarding my career, him then being able to look for a job he actually enjoys and us being able to buy a bigger house, which would all of course not really fit in with extending our little family any further.

The only slight doubt *I* had was of course that they're all girls, and whilst that doesn't bother me in the slightest I was really worried that DH may decide later he wants to try for a son (due to the reputation that's held out about men/sons) However, we've talked about that in depth and DH is absolutely convinced he's quite happy with what he's got and would rather spend the rest of his life enjoying them than worrying about what he may have missed out on. Plus of course, you can try for as many babies as you like and there is never any guarantee you'd get a son

I suppose we'll just have to go see what the Doc says and then take things from there...

Posted: 25 January 2008 at 5:42pm | IP Logged

Oh i will say i didn't realise laxtex allergy is so common! I have it too it's strange how common something is when someone mentions it and it's brought out of the wood work!

I think they would have to have a really good reason for refusing you and i think they might struggle to find one! You have a good argument.... lets hope the docs ears are on and listening.