Joined: 13 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8225 Gender: Female
Posted: 01 November 2006 at 10:23am | IP Logged
I know us women can be hard work when it comes to PMT and mood swings but at least its expected. My DP is a nightmare - I truely believe he is a women sometimes judging by his behaviour.
We had a great weekend and he was in a lovely mood. I was out monday night so was looking forward to cooking him a nice halloween meal last night. I'd had a bad day and Eddie had a poorly tummy and I've been knee deep in nappies all day! As a result I hadnt had time to tidy up Eds toys when he got home. (Now I should add at this point that DP is verging on OCD with his tidyness!) So he came in, immediately in a bad mood - didnt even say hi to me, and started tidying up - despite me saying over and over I was doing it. Then he decided to do the hoovering instead of giving ed his bath (I cant hoover coz of my hips) and spent the whole time muttering under his breath while I went up and bathed eddie and put him to bed.
He didnt cheer up all night and I gave up even trying to be nice and went to bed and 9.30 with my book.
The thing is I now dont know what he'll be like tonight. I have talked to him about it before and he says it isnt me its just coz he's had a bad day but its like dealing with a child - and when i've been dealing with a real (poorly) child all day - I just dont need it!
Joined: 11 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8402 Gender: Female
Posted: 01 November 2006 at 11:59am | IP Logged
Rant away hun, I've been married to dh for nearly 16 yrs now, and he is much worse than the children when he's in a bad mood! Then he sits whining that I haven't done something, complaining that I've been online all day! Well this is almost the only website I go to, and I can count on one hand how many hours I spend on it these days! The only time I'm on here is when I need to relax and have the kids here to help with the lo's, however you can guarantee thats when he will phone. And the fact I'm only on for about half an hour at a time, makes it worse for me. The kids are now beginning to understand why I don't get much done during the day, when Fred goes to bed, Winston needs to be dealt with, then he finally sleeps just before Fred gets up, so Ionly have a peaceful, babyfree room from when Winston goes to bed at night!
Men seem to think that because we are home all day we can do everything and sit all day doing nothing. Dh knows it's not true, but it doesn't make a difference when it's his 'time of the month' lol The difference is we only get one week a month to * and moan, they try and do it continuously!
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3163 Gender: Female
Posted: 01 November 2006 at 12:00pm | IP Logged
im sure men do get pmt, but without the periods lol, there must be a name for what they get. my dh has been on and off moody since sunday night, it didnt help that he had to stay in and have molly while i worked as i couldnt get a sitter - well hard tough matey you go out to the pub twice a week one night footy training when do i get the chance? - oh yes sorry i know three times a week 6 - 10 but thats called work (i think he forgets that) Grrr they really dont realise sometimes how hard it is looking after the los and trying to keep on top of the house, hope you dp is in a better mood tonight, they do snap out of it when it suits them then seem to think its us with the problem!!! big (((hugs)))xx jue xx p.s hope little eddie is heaps better xxx
Joined: 07 June 2006 United Kingdom Posts: 4057 Gender: Female
Posted: 01 November 2006 at 1:28pm | IP Logged
Mood swings arent they great. Joe has lousy ones, but I can spot them a mile off. He is having really pants days at work at the moment, he sorts out the manning for upcoming exercises as well as detatchments to not nice places. Needless to say that manpower is well tight at the moment..so you can imagine how some of the blokes feel when they have been away for a few months, to go into work..and find out that they are going away again the following week..so I tend to just let him get on with it when he gets in from work.
Apparently he doesnt get any time to relax and chill out when he gets home from work ha, thats a new one, he comes in, has a shower, has a coffee then goes on his puter til the girls have gone to bed...so if thats not chillin then I dont know what it is. Hes worse a week before he goes away, as the walls start to come up, and he distances himself from us all, its his way of coping when he is away. It is hard for him, and i've been through it myself..however it doesnt make it easier going through it.
Me, cos im heartless, tend to let him just get on with it, ignore him and go for a hot bath...then im cheeky...you finished your period yet..or do you need some feminax lol. That tends to make him figure out that hes been a poohead.
Joined: 12 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 8739 Gender: Not Specified
Posted: 04 November 2007 at 5:10pm | IP Logged
Mine sulks. In fact, so did my ex...think it's a male trait.
Like my mum always said 'men are little boys in grown up suits'. How true!
At least if mine's in a mood I can send him home (and I have). Afterall, I already have two children to look after and I don't want nor need another, thank you very much!! lolololo
Joined: 11 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 2476 Gender: Female
Posted: 04 November 2007 at 5:17pm | IP Logged
Hun Chris is like this too, he gets so stroppy and snappy you'd think it was a matter of life and death but it's him struggling to remember that i can't do everything and he should let me know in advance if he needs something inparticualr (sp?) doing......
try not to let him bother you and if eds has left you any go have a sneeky few malteesers!
Joined: 06 September 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 534 Gender: Female
Posted: 04 November 2007 at 8:18pm | IP Logged
Well I m sorry to say that I left my ex for being a miserable git. Well that was one of the reasons!!! He would get up in a great mood, go to work, and come home in a fowl mood. I would ask if he wanted to talk about it, he d say NO so I would totally ignore him till he came out of it!! which I might add could be days!!! Have recently found out, for the last two years of our marriage the bad moods were due to a massive guilty conscience as he was bonking a girl he d met thru work!!! (Not saying that anyone elses dp is doing that, but mine was!) it was like having three small children and kevin the teenager (harry enfields character!!)
try leaving a puking, messy tummy child with a man and see how much housework they get done in a day. In fact how much can they do with a healthy child in their care.... not much in my experience!!!
Joined: 19 December 2006 United States Posts: 594 Gender: Female
Posted: 04 November 2007 at 8:46pm | IP Logged
MEN definately goes tthrough hormone peaks once a month. Besides his OCD, you gotta follow his trends monthly and see when his date of hormonal peaks. My hubbie and i have the same monthly times sometimes and thats when we both have short tempers with eachother...I hope you organize with his tidyness schedule. i heard if the routine is broken is when the moods get out of control. OCD is a control disorder for him..and its his way to stay in "control"....be careful madz.
Joined: 17 June 2005 United Kingdom Posts: 3631 Gender: Female
Posted: 04 November 2007 at 8:54pm | IP Logged
Stewart drives me mad as his mood is always the same! I'm the prima-donna who has crazy swings and he's so laid back he's horizontal at times. I was laughing recently as his mum brought round his old school reports the other day and they were saying things like "he's a dreamer", "he likes to drift away into his own little world" and he's still like that! And he'd walk around the assault course of toys and kids' stuff strewn about this house just not seeing it to clear it up. I've told him I don't know how many times I find it nearly impossible to pick things up from the floor and he's like "OK, I'll help", but if I waited I'd wait until a week next Tuesday for him to get his backside in gear. No wonder I nag.
Joined: 07 March 2007 United Kingdom Posts: 115 Gender: Female
Posted: 04 November 2007 at 10:32pm | IP Logged
OMG men! my dh is so up and down it really does get to me. i've started to notice a pattern and can tell he'll be brewing for a few days leading up to the days when he's not good. he does have depression, but part of me just thinks now that it's him and nothing more. i do get nervous as it varies. i'll ask if he's okay and is anything on his mind etc and he always says he's fine when it's obvious he's not.
the main thing that gets my goat though is that if i bring something up and say that i'm not happy or ask him to not do something with katie etc he says i'm moaning and that i'm doing it all the time. if i ask him for something..ie time to get on computer or something else and i don't get it and then mention it he'll get on his high horse saying how i'm having a go. i really don't get it. if there is anything with a slight negative content he comes up with the same. i hate it. it's like i can't be honest and have to put up with anything. i mean i'm not moaning at all. i can be really nice when i say whats on my mind but these statements that he comes up with gives the wrong impression. they then worry and he acts like he's mistreated. it must be dented ego syndrome. i have to say he grew up with nothing being adressed in his family...just keep the peace no matter what. so this is why he expects me to not be honest. it is such hard work. yes, we're having difficulties at the mo, but it's like he wants nothing with any negative connotation said to him. it's not humanly possible to be like that....surely?!
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Topic: Men’s mood swings
OMG men! my dh is so up and down it really does get to me. i've started to notice a pattern and can tell he'll be brewing for a few days leading up to the days when he's not good. he does have depression, but part of me just thinks now that it's him and nothing more. i do get nervous as it varies. i'll ask if he's okay and is anything on his mind etc and he always says he's fine when it's obvious he's not.