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Posted: 07 May 2007 at 6:55pm | IP Logged

I'm still going through this. My youngest are 26 months and 4 and 1/2.

Most of the time I leave them to it as the lil one is old enough now to stick up for himself but when they were small, I would put Sophie into the naughty corner and do something nice with Adam. She soon realised that she was missing out and it eventually stopped, but like I say, they occassionally fight now but nowhere neaar as much.

Posted: 07 May 2007 at 7:00pm | IP Logged

Horrible as it is many toddlers of this age go through this stage. have you tried reward charts? Give him a sticker if he isnt nasty to his brother and stops smacking. Then when he has a certain amount of stickers he gets a treat! Stickers work great with most kids!

Also removing him from the situation. Dont make a big scene about it, simply take him out of the room, seat him on a step or the floor where its safe and tell him that was for being naughty, then walk away. If he can see he isnt going to get a big attention response he may pull back his behaviour.

A lot of the times, its a case of waiting for the phase to pass. It will pass and I would try not to let him see you worked up about it. They usually act this way for attention.

Welcome to madmums, and I really hope he settles down for you! Congratulations on your recent pregnancy too babe xxxx

Posted: 07 May 2007 at 7:08pm | IP Logged

could you spend time alone with grayson so he knows hes still special?

welcome btw

Posted: 07 May 2007 at 7:19pm | IP Logged

Thanks everyone, I'm gonna try the "not make a big scene" method and see how that goes, I know kids like attention no matter what kind negative or positive. 

Posted: 07 May 2007 at 7:25pm | IP Logged

welcome to madmums.

i really sympathise with you as my kids who is 5 and 29 months do nothing but fight every time they see each other also the 29 month old hits my lo who is 8 months im just hoping that they will grow out of it.

Posted: 07 May 2007 at 9:48pm | IP Logged

I've just started going through this with one of mine. But she hits me when she doesn't get her own way. To be honest I've tried the yelling and screaming and found ignoring her is the best thing. But I know you can't do that when there's a baby involved.

Hope you sort it out soon chick, sorry I can't really be of any help

x

Posted: 07 May 2007 at 9:59pm | IP Logged

A simple 'no' and removing them from the situation without making any other kind of fuss and without speaking to the child usually does the trick for us.

Once you moved Grayson go over to the baby and make a fuss, then after 2 1/2 mins go over to grayson give him a cuddle and carry on as normal.

We had to do this when my eldest went through a similar stay, it worked rather well.

Its a difficult age for all

Posted: 15 May 2007 at 4:24am | IP Logged

WOW! These are nice advice.. Now I am ready if my child do this to his future bors/sis Thanks for these good advice. I really learn from this  :)