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Posted: 14 November 2007 at 10:23am | IP Logged

Aw poor you. It's confusing for lo's at times like this. Although dh is in the RAF, he hasn't been away very often, and not since Cameron is old enough to really notice - although he is away in March for 6 weeks, so we'll see then how Cameron reacts.

Hopefully he'll be tired tonight after his disturbed night and sleep a bit better for you.

I know my SPD flares up more when I'm tired, so that won't be helping you today. Hope you get a chance to have a relatively easy day, and a good nights sleep tonight.

Hope Eds's check goes fine too.

xxx

Posted: 15 November 2007 at 1:44pm | IP Logged

Hunny, as I said in your other post, I can totally sympathise with you! Last time dh was away, Ben was so bad at night that he spent 4 mths in bed with me! It was either that or spend all night sat next to him in his room! I hope it gets easier for you hunny, as we all know that sleep depravation is the worst form of torture!!

As for Eds being confused, I have a similar dilema. When dh goes away in Feb he'll have the chance of coming home for 5 days during his tour. This is the first ime he's done this, as last time he was too far away. I'm worried that this is going to upset Ben, seeing daddy for a few days then him going away again! Its gonna upset me too, having to say goodbye twice! I'm not sure how to handle it

Posted: 15 November 2007 at 2:11pm | IP Logged

Awww hun

Have you tried giving them (the kids) daddy's jumper to cuddle or daddy's pillow?? Might work knowing they have something to make them feel closer.

Posted: 15 November 2007 at 4:22pm | IP Logged

Steph, I'd feel terrible telling him I don't want him home lol! I'll have to broach the subject with him though  

Sorry for gatecrashing your post madz

Posted: 15 November 2007 at 4:38pm | IP Logged

Id suggest a photo in his room etc chica and see how that goes..then he can babble away to his hearts content.....

Posted: 15 November 2007 at 5:20pm | IP Logged

Hi Madz,

Yeah, an upset in the routine is pants, but try and be strong.

Although I have a boyfriend I always do all the 'parenting' things myself, that way when Kev goes away long term or short term there's no upset. It works for us.

I know I'm in a totally different situation, but I am an expert on tiredness!  Hey, you're talking to a single mum of two children under four, who owns a house that is falling to pieces, which needs major work doing and who works full-time. 

At least you've got your chap coming back home. If that isn't a light at the end of the tunnel I don't know what is.  Chin up, lovey, he'll be back soon and I hope the SPD eases up on you soon.

Zo xxxx

Posted: 17 November 2007 at 10:37am | IP Logged

I remember when Bekah never noticed when her Dad was away and then she got to an age where she knew. I thought it was strange how that happened. She must have been about 2, Eds age.

He moved down to Merseyside for 3 months before we moved down, came home on weekends though. I ended up with Bekah in bed with me and the baby in the cot next to me. As you said, you set a precedent then, don't you. Could not get Bekah back in her own bed and she was nearly 4 then. She eventually accepted that I would let her go to sleep in my bed but when it got too late I would carry her through to her own bed. Meaning, when I wanted to go to sleep I carried her through to her own bed. She was older than Eds so could understand this and accepted it.

Though, even now when her Dad is away she wants to sleep with me. Tasha doesn't bother, not sure if she doesn't love her Dad , or still too young to notice.

Hope you managed to get Eds back in his own bed. Getting him to take Daddy's jumper etc to bed with him is a good idea.

Hope your spd is better.