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Posted: 09 May 2008 at 2:15pm | IP Logged

I have Taylor every weekend during term time, when it is school hols i have him week days. It works very well for me and Sie.

Posted: 09 May 2008 at 4:29pm | IP Logged

While I was still in Fife, my ex saw the girls every other day - which didn't work at all - too disruptive in our family life. Now that we're 8 hours away, it's school holidays, during which we share them. He doesn't bother coming down here - when we go home I give the girls to him for a couple of nights. He also takes them away in the summer holidays for a fortnight. When we got divorced it was left as 'open access' - to be agreed between us. So far it's worked ok.

xxx

Posted: 09 May 2008 at 6:14pm | IP Logged

I have Joshua Monday - Sunday 365 days a year pmsl.. and thats all the arrangements we need hehe

I think you and Brett will have to sit and talk about what he wants and expects wants he's back in the UK, and then compromise on that. He might not be expecting a great deal of contact xxx

Posted: 10 May 2008 at 2:02pm | IP Logged

hey chick

Ive got mine set in stone via a court order.  I have to stick to it, but its tied up pretty tight with flexibility there as and when.

Ben can have Natasja for 2 weekends a month, alternate half terms, alternate christmas, new year, two weeks during the summer holidays, alternate bank holidays...and the ability for extra access pending my agreement.

Thing is, thats the way its supposed to be.  But obviously with us here and him in kent its not possible.

So in all honesty, he gets the two weeks in the summer holidays, and time during majority of half terms, subject to agreement.  If its his rotad half term i dont argue, if its not then he has to accept it if I say no that we have plans.  Bank holidays dont really count as the travelling is to much apparently.  So he just lets me know as and when, as long as I have 2 weeks notice then usually no arguments.  He plays fair by me, and ill play fair by him. 

He knows when hes got no chance...as in just before joe goes away, or when joe gets back, her birthday half term and my birthday.  Fathers day is out the question as is mothers day!

As long as you are open to suggestion and willing to be flexible and he guarantees that the boys are not going to be let down at the last minute for things that come up...then youll be fine.  Tell him what YOU expect from him as their father and take it from there, all you can do chick. 

A case of...its not HIS right to see and spend time with the boys...its the BOYS right to see and spend time with him, and those are the only rights you are bothered about the BOYS and not HIS.