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Posted: 25 April 2006 at 4:07pm | IP Logged

Honestly I'm sorry to be complaining again, but I'm at my wits end with Bex I really am.

Apart from the typical "I hate you" teen stuff, she's been really awful to me saying that I'm this that and so on.

It all kicked off this morning with her refusing to get up for school. I'd been up most of the night so was in no mood for this and shouted at her etc to get a bleep bleep move on. Anyway she missed the bus and it was all my fault. I told her I'd phone the school and explain that she slept in which went down like a lead balloon. The phone was grabbed off me and flung at the wall so now it's in bits.

She eventually stormed out with a bag of stuff saying that she isn't coming back. 

Posted: 25 April 2006 at 4:55pm | IP Logged

awww mate she sounds like a real handful.  how old is she?  i wasn't that bad, although i got up to all sorts of stuff that i shouldn't have behind my parents' backs.  my sister was a complete nightmare.  she would tell you that herself.

anyway, have you tried ignoring her behaviour. i remember when i was 15. i got absolutely drunk and ended up slurring down the phone to my dad for him to pick me up. i always remember the journey home as he wouldn't speak to me or even look at me.  when i got home my mum just looked so disappointed, i even asked her to ground me so that she would speak to me!  it was truly awful receiving the silent treatment, but it worked nonetheless.

apart from that i don't know what else to suggest.

zo x

Posted: 25 April 2006 at 5:24pm | IP Logged

i would ground her in that case.  have you tried grounding her?  i wonder why she is the way she is.  this must be so difficult for you. hang in there-you're a great mum even though you don't feel it right now.

zo x

Posted: 25 April 2006 at 5:25pm | IP Logged

Grounded her time and time again.

Thanks for the support, really appreciating it.

Posted: 25 April 2006 at 5:39pm | IP Logged

Wish I knew what to suggest hun. Sending big big hugs.

Do you spend quality time 'together'? ie just the two of you. Could you do this in reward for good behaviour? I know talking to her when you are both stressed wont work but once the arguement has subsided and a suitable time frame has passed could you go and talk to her and explain that she has upset you and how it makes you feel when she says those things about you. Tell her you want to start treating her with more respect but she has to earn it. And at the end of the day she will always be you little girl and all you want to do is love her? Sorry of I've gone off on one - i'm kind of thinking out loud here.

I'm sorry she is behaving like this - it is a faze that will pass but it doesnt always feel like it at the time. Love you xxx

Posted: 25 April 2006 at 5:56pm | IP Logged

Rereading my post I wanted to add you hav NOTHING to be sorry for and you are most definatly NOT a bad mum!

Love ya hun xxx