Unsolicited advice on parenting

[RebeccaS]

"<FONT face=""Courier New, Courier, mono"" size=2>Ohh I'm so mad! Mt SIl has just been round with her 18mth dd and she has just made me so cross! Spouting on about the contented Baby book, how I'm not stimulating Jack enough and how routine is very important etc etc. If I wanted advice on parenting I would ask thank you very much......He is my child afterall and if I don't want to follow a bloomin book then I shan't! There...sorry...rant over, I feel better already.</FONT>"

[baileyg]

"<FONT face=""Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"" size=2>You dont have to listen to anyone other than your own mind, glad after that you feel better lol, hope your ok bec?? gem.x</FONT>"

[MumSam]

<FONT color=#9900ff>I have a cousin who swares by that book too.  I read about 3 pages of it and knew it wasn't for me talk about regimented.  You do what you feel best Becks and ignore other people if it works for them let them get on with it.</FONT>

[RebeccaS]

Yeah I'm ok. Just wish everyone was as nice about stuff as you guys are...you know, not obnoxious or condecending at all.

[nickimas]

I know some people like that... The girl who waxes my legs is always telling me what I should and shouldn't be doing.  She used to tell me how to treat my stepdaughter and that I should speak to DH about cutting back visits etc once Cerys had arrived.  Even when I tried t explain to her that my Stepdaughter was really scared about feeling pushed out and that cutting back visits will make it worse she told me that I was wrong.  She even upset my sister by telling her that she was stupid to have a second child when her first child was only 22 months old.  </P>

She is someone who has read all the books and knows it all... what they forget though is that the babies haven't actually read any of these books and they will just do as they please and we just find what works for each one of us individually.</P>

Sorry bit of an essay going here... perhaps all I should have said is that I agree we just do what works for us.  </P>

[RebeccaS]

"LOL Nickimas!  "

[missy]

"<FONT color=#ff66ff><FONT size=3>i have a sister just like this she does my f$$king head in to be frank!! she moans about the way we or i do everything last week it was my car seat was horrid and not right for daisy erm....ok . because daisy isnt ina routine i go with what she wants i also get diged at for this i am now avoiding her at all cost before i do somthing silly</FONT> </FONT>"

[RebeccaS]

"<font style=""color: rgb(255, 51, 153);"" size=""2""><span style=""font-family: arial,helvetica,sans-serif;"">Why don't these people f off and tend to their own business and stop worrying about ours!? If i ever get like this will someone shoot me???</span></font>"

[LittleP1984]

"<FONT face=""Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif"" color=#ff0000>I find it really annoying wen any1 tells me how 2 bring up Ryan especially wen they keep going on at u. The other day i was in ASDA (dps work) & 1 of his collegues told me i should b bitting Ryans nails so he doesnt scratch himself - iv cut them once so far cause he did give himself a nasty scratch but id never bite them.It was bad enough she said it once but then she started saying 'thats wot u hav 2 do,did nobody tell u that?' then she turned 2 dp & said pretty much the same thing like she was waiting for 1 of us 2 start bitting Ryans nails there in front of her so she could inspect them & tell us how bad a job we'd done, either that or she was waiting for an invitation 2 do it herself. I was really annoyed </FONT>"

[Vickimom]

I ma a very proud 4th timer, and to be honest I am surprised at the amount of people who think they know better than me with just one spoilt brat to their names!  I have been given a couple of baby books, and having read them I went through a stage of feeling very inadequate, so now I have taken a few tips from all of them, and thrown them in the bin!  Fred is no text book baby, as he is already at 10 weeks having 2 solid feeds a day!  Having been told by many people that he should not be on even one, I am happy in the knowledge he's still gaining ok, and he's contented most of the time! So I just assume I'm doing something right.  But if people do start telling me how to do things, like when i should feed him, i let them take over, but biting nails is gross.  Especially as they are soft enough that you can gently pick them or pull slightly when they have already started to split.